True to yourself

I am ever more convinced that one has to be true to oneself.

That might mean complete un-traditional approach to things, not winning favors with people you care, might be unethical, might be ridiculed, might upset others ... It should has a limit, somewhere before getting to "illegal". 

If you do not understand the actions or the thoughts of someone you care, but believe they are being true to themselves, I think the best things you can do for them and yourself are to be supportive and maintain respectable disagreement.